Workshop 1 (insert date): What makes it so difficult to ask for what we want?

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Gender ‘boxes’ about what it means to be a man or a woman and the consequences of straying outside those narrowly defined roles, and the devastating impact these ‘boxes’ have on our ability to notice what we want, value it, and communicate it. Tools for noticing and asking for what you want. 

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Workshop 2 (insert date): Talking about touch - creating safety and consent

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There is a lot of fear about asking for touch, and what kinds of touch and communication are appropriate – in the last several years, with #MeToo, awareness and visibility has increased about the prevalence of unwanted touch, which has been important, but also left many uncertain and frustrated about how to be.  With the advent of the Corona Virus, so many of us are now touch starved, yet there is intense uncertainty about when (if ever) it will be safe to touch others again.   While we can’t predict that, we can build skills around talking about touch and asking for consent.  We’ll explore the Wheel of Consent, developed by Betty Martin, and practice using the tools she offers to notice our desires and communicate honestly about them.   Part of talking about consent and touch is learning to value, say, and hear all forms of responses, such as: yes; no; maybe; I’m not sure; and I changed my mind. 

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Workshop 3 (insert date): Self-Pleasure Practice

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It is hard to prioritize self-pleasure and giving time for deep exploration.  So many distractions, so little time, so much pressure to get everything done.  So easy to fall into a rut, rush or use the tried-and-true ways to reach orgasm as quickly and efficiently as possible.  There is another way.   Savoring the journey, rather than being fixated on the destination.  Making pleasure the goal, not just orgasm.  We’ll learn techniques from somatic sex education to feel more embodied and enhance your level of arousal.  Using breath, imagination, touch and curiosity, we’ll blow the doors open on how good it can feel to be you.  You’ll come away with ideas, techniques and tips for exploring many ways to touch, that you can begin to do immediately (even in quarantine) in your own Mindful Erotic Practice.

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Workshop 4 (insert date): The Arousal Cycle and Erotic Touch

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Responses of different bodies.   Factors promoting and inhibiting turn on.  We’ll talk about the various kinds of turn ons and how people are wired differently (we’ll learn about the Erotic Blueprint).  We’ll explore the elements of erotic touch, and how to use the Wheel of Consent learning to offer and ask for touch.   Live demo. 

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BONUS RECORDING: "Why Is It So Hard to Ask for What We Want? (And How to Get Better At It)

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