Work with Me

Feel safe in your body. Breathe, feel and heal.

Expand pleasure and joy.

Let’s co-create your transformative journey. Move at the pace of trust with your body ..... be supported in exploring the deeper needs and issues behind what's holding you back .... release what you no longer need .... identify and reach for what you desire.

Working with me is kind of like hiring a personal trainer or fitness coach. We work together to help you build the skills that lead to greater embodied presence and self-confidence, so you can live more fully in your body, to create a more pleasure-filled, turned-on life!

Bonus! This work helps you build resilience, so that it's easier to navigate life's ups and downs and stressors, and can leave you relaxed and energized.

Each session begins with a gentle transition into our time together, with grounding or a body scan, and checking in with your body and mind about your intentions for that session. We'll co-create your unique practice that is grounded in enthusiastic consent, and includes trauma-informed touch and healing that recognizes that pleasure is a wonderful resource. Working in this way allows for releasing of long-held beliefs and patterns, and learning and creating new choices, so that you now have more options than you had before. Each session includes time for stillness at the end, for your body to savor and integrate the experience and deepen the new neural connections you are creating.

Session Levels

I offer different levels of sessions, depending on your intentions and what feels safe in your body. As safety and trust grow, we can explore deeper levels of intimacy and vulnerability and access greater expansion and healing.

Level One - safety, discovery, and presence. We focus on discovering you and your relationship to your own body and to other people. With caring and gentle presence, we may explore questions such as: What was early life like? What kinds of messages and beliefs did you hear about pleasure ... relationships ... work ... asking for what you want? Are there wounds that need care? We'll move really slowly, using gentle inquiry and nurturing and nourishing touch (if that feels safe) to help support your body in releasing patterns that no longer serve you, and bringing life-energy back into tender places.

We'll explore the basic somatic practices of breath, sound, movement and touch, to help calm your nervous system, expand your sense of safety, and awaken awareness of sensations in your body. We'll use clear language around touch, using the Wheel of Consent, and practice noticing how it feels to give and receive touch with clarity around who the touch is for (a game changer!). You can listen to Betty Martin, the creator of the Wheel of Consent, talk about this here: https://www.wheelofconsent.org/free-videos

We'll explore noticing sensations in your body, and maybe talk about desires and pleasure. Is it hard to notice or ask for what you want?

If and how we touch depends on your intention and what feels safe in your body. There might not be any touch at all; we may choose to focus on other somatic practices to support you. Touch might be one-way (from me to you), or mutual, though platonic, as I guide you in:

tuning into and noticing the sensations in your body,
inhabiting the various roles modeled in the Wheel of Consent, and getting a felt sense of how knowing who touch is for brings awareness that it feels different in your body if it’s for you, or for the other person,
recognizing how unprocessed emotions and trauma feel in your body, and using the somatic tools to allow them to release,
playing safe games around communication, platonic touch and boundaries.

Level Two - choice, voice and pleasure expansion. We put those communication and relating skills together with the somatic skills, to provide you safe opportunities to notice what you want, ask for it, and receive it. This process is profoundly healing for the wounds caused by neglect, by not asking for what you want, and by not having your needs and desires tended to. Activities can include all those from level one, along with whole body mapping, bossy massage (where you are in charge of everything that happens!), self-pleasure coaching, pelvic steaming, dearmoring (supporting the tissues and fascia that are holding onto self-protective, chronic guarding patterns to release them), and other body-based practices that serve your intentions.

Touch is primarily from me to you, for your well-being, and in service to your intentions, whether they be:

learning more about your body and inhabiting it more fully, with curiosity around what feels pleasurable,
noticing and asking for what you want,
accessing pleasure as a healing resource, and for its own sake, and
supporting your body in releasing any blocks to pleasure that are ready to be released.

Session Types

Learning can happen gradually, or all at once. Giving yourself at least three sessions provides you some experience of success and a clear sense of what is possible, and how this work is going to be useful for you.

In-person sessions near Nyack, NY. I recommend starting with three sessions, with each session three hours. Alternatively, you can start with a two-hour session focused on nurturing and nourishment through pleasure, to get to know me and sense more deeply into whether working with me supports your intentions. The rate for 3 hours is $600, and for 2 hours is $500.

Personal retreats. A series of at 12 to 18 hours of sessions with me in Nyack, NY over two or three days, without the time constraints and the need to immediately return to the stress of everyday life. This immersion provides space and time in between for savoring and integration, and can lead to deep transformation in a remarkably short time. An effective way to work with me if you don't live close by, and can travel for a retreat. The rate for this is $200/hour of session time.

Online coaching sessions. As with in-person sessions, I recommend starting with three 90-minute sessions, where we can explore your intentions and practice body-based tools (breath, sound, movement, imagination and touch) for becoming more present in your body, regulating the autonomic nervous system, and expanding your pleasure capacity. The rate for this is $200 for 90 minutes (Or you can pay $500 up front for all three).

To acknowledge ongoing harm, plus my own inadequacies, I offer reparative pricing for BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and disability community members, with a sliding scale. I offer reparative pricing in the hope of encouraging systemic amends to communities who actively experience violence, oppression, and economic disparities. Ask me about this is my current pricing is prohibitive for you.

Disclaimer: While I am attuned to your needs and shower you with caring and love during sessions, and our time together can be enjoyable, this is NOT a girlfriend, surrogate or escort experience. We are co-creating a safe and consensual environment for your learning and benefit.

What to learn more? Check out the FAQs page, or set up a discovery call to talk about what's going on for you, and feel into whether I'm a good fit for you. It's a great way to experience a bit of what somatic work is like, and chat about creating your personal plan for living more fully and pleasurably in your body. Reach out to me at bodysouljourney@protonmail.com, and let’s set up a time to talk. I look forward to our conversation!

Butterfly photo by Håkon Grimstad on Unsplash

Top photo by Filip, who can be reached at 201-956-0806